(Question: “I have people needing me here and people needing me elsewhere. I love them both but I can’t be in two places at the same time. I feel torn in two. How can I answer my divided heart? How do I choose who to help? How do I know which place to be to fulfill my destiny, my purpose, to fulfill the needs of those I love?”)
We ask that you notice that you are attempting to divide your heart to please others, and we would say that is not your responsibility. It is not your responsibility to fulfill another’s need. It is your responsibility to fulfill only your need. We would ask, “What is your need?” This is the only need that you must fill.
It is not your purpose to fulfill the needs of another. It is not your destiny, it is not your purpose, it is not the plan for you. You may hold love and compassion in your heart, and yet this does not mean that you must express it in fulfilling the needs of others. Through your expression of the new heart consciousness in the world, you may find that you are influencing others and in this way others may come to you and say, “I choose to live as you do, tell me what to do.” It is not for you to tell them what to do, just as we will not tell you what to do, but instead to assist them in finding that place of their own truth that they may find their own path.
We understand that this will require that you shift your belief that it is your duty, your responsibility, to fulfill the needs of those who say, “we need you.” It is for each being to fulfill their own need. When you attempt to fulfill the need for those who say, “We need you to fulfill that which we need,” we ask you to please see where you are interfering in the ability for those people to find the place within them that will support their own need. We would also say that it may very well be those beings will not be able to find that place within them, to find that strength. Please understand it is not for you to save them.
We would say that there is a difference between fulfilling the needs of those who choose not to fulfill their own needs and caring for those, such as your young ones and your elderly, who are in need of assistance. Offering assistance to those who require it, offering love and compassion and caring to those who are in need of solace, is not the same as fulfilling the needs of those who seek to have others do that which they choose not to do for themselves.
You must understand that as you begin to seek to fulfill your own need, you will find that you must express to those who would ask you to fulfill their needs that you are not able to do that for them. You will find that you may, perhaps, find it necessary to say, “No, I am not able to come to you, nor am I able to come to the other. I must find that place within me that is uncovering what I need. I am not able to fulfill that which you need and that which the other needs, and still have the ability to find what I need.” You may find that you are having to express this, and we understand that there is that place within you that desires not to hear this.
We do understand that this is a challenge for many, to release that place within that feels the need to take care of and be responsible for others. Please know that our hearts are full of love and compassion for you as you experience this particular change in your consciousness.
“In the last analysis, the individual person is responsible for living his own life and for ‘finding himself.’ If he persists in shifting his responsibility to somebody else, he fails to find out the meaning of his own existence.” – Thomas Merton, Trappist monk, poet